Just imagine how his wife and children feel.
I was sure that I didn't hear it right as I pulled in to the fireworks store on Saturday afternoon. Just like everybody else I couldn't believe that former NFL quarterback Steve McNair had been killed. Once I heard the details that were available I started to believe.
Situations like this one are the reason behind the NFL's seminar for rookies. Counselors and former players warn and yell and beg the new crop of stars to avoid these situations. Some do. Some don't. Some never will. Ask the governor of South Carolina. Ask the men in Charlotte who paid big money to go on "dates" with women in a high priced prostitution ring.
You don't have to go far to find married people who stray. As I write this police in Nashville have yet to officially call McNair's death a "murder-suicide", but officials are calling the woman involved Steve McNair's "girlfriend." Police also say he bought her a Cadillac Escalade. This was a married father of four.
Former teammates have lined up to remember the man who refused to back down in the face of the physical beatings that define the quarterback position. I look back on a great article I read about McNair and the pain that kept him up at night after games. How he couldn't get up off the couch to make it to bed. How his wife brought him bags of ice so he could get up mid-week and do it all over again.
Today Titans coach Steve Fisher asked us all to remember the "type of player and person" McNair was. I will do that with thanks for the man who gladly helped young people every along step of his career. I hope someone out there also remembers how senseless all of this is. A 36 year old father of four sons shot and killed with his girlfriend dead at his side. His wife left with a mix of emotions few of us could ever understand.
No one deserves to die like this. No one deserves to be betrayed like this. Maybe next year at the NFL rookie seminar one more person will pay attention.