When Your Kid Doesn’t Like Their Teacher
School is hard enough with homework and stress. But what do you do if your kid doesn't like their teacher? After acknowledging their feelings, the first thing you should do is find out what they mean. You want your child to be specific and give examples so you get a clearer understanding of their thought processes.
When kids get negative opinions of their teacher they tend to focus only on the negativity. To help your child see both sides of the coin, ask them to tell you about positive interactions. For example, when they were chosen to the line leader, classroom helper, door holder. Or, when the teacher was polite and helped them.
Help your child work their through problems with the teacher. Brainstorm ways that your children can handle the situation. Remember to focus on what they can control, i.e., their behavior and reactions. For example, if your teacher does X then you can do Y. Create a list of phrases your child might say. A common reasons kids don't like their teacher is when the teacher is perceived as being strict. Strict tends to be synonymous with mean.
When The Teacher Doesn’t Like Your Kid
"My teacher hates me!" are words no parent wants to hear from their child. When you do, take a deep breath before responding. You might be wondering when you should talk to the teacher to fix the situation. It's important to see if your kid is venting daily frustrations or if it's a chronic feeling. For younger kids, you should intervene sooner rather than later as their problem solving skills and responses aren't as developed as older kids. When you start noticing anxiety about going to school, sleeping or eating difficulties, behavior problems about school then it's past time to talk to the teacher.
When you talk to the teacher, it's important to talk about the problem from your child's point of view. Talk about how the problems make them feel, the ways their school enjoyment and classroom experience is impacted. Ask for the teacher's perspective to understand the situation better. You want a collaborative approach when you and teacher work together to develop a plan of action.
If the nothing changes and your child’s grades are falling and they’re anxious about school then it's time to talk to the principal. And possibly change classes. As a parent you have to have realistic expectations about teachers and school. Your child has a right to respectful learning environment. But don’t expect for them to have never issues or situations with teachers. That’s unrealistic. Teaching them conflict resolution is a critical life skill that they'll use with you, friends, and eventually work. A harsh reality of life is that not everyone they meet will like them. And they won't like everyone they meet.
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