CHARLOTTE, N.C -- On the field Greg Hardy doesn t lose very often, but in court the Carolina Panther defensive end has been labeled an abuser - having lost his domestic violence case.

When there is a public case of domestic violence we tend to see more calls and we also see more friends and family who reach out more, said Karen Parker.

She is the Chief Advancement Officer of Safe Alliance which operates the Clyde and Ethel Dickson Domestic Violence Shelter.

It sends a message to the community that we are taking domestic violence seriously.

Nicole Holder is the victim in the Hardy case. The defense attacked her character; in effect labeling her a violent gold-digger who assaulted Hardy.

That didn't work yesterday; experts like Parker say there is never an excuse for domestic violence.

There is always a choice, you can choose to be violent or not so it's important that we don't focus all the attention on the victim or blame the victim, but look at the perpetrator and say you made a choice here, she said.

The Hardy case and Bianca Tanner homicide has put domestic violence on the front burner.
A lot of people don't think about the problem until there is a high profile case.

But to give you some idea as to the need, the new shelter has been open for about a year and a half; at 120 beds it s three times bigger than the old one and a lot of nights it s booked solid.

We would say at any act of domestic violence goes too far because we want to make sure it's not happening, Parker said

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